I used to play soccer, a lot. I’m pretty sure I had a shirt that said “Soccer is life.” I was a midfielder, and I loved scoring goals. Whether you’ve played soccer or not, try to picture this. Imagine you’re a player, and you’ve got the ball. Obviously, you want to score. You’re dribbling at full speed down the field toward the goal. You pull a sweet spin move around that last defender leaving nothing between you and the goalie. Now, a soccer goal is pretty big, so there’s a lot of open space to get the ball into that net. But, as you’re flying full speed ahead, what would happen if you started to think, “Don’t kick it at the Goalie”, “Don’t kick it at the Goalie.” With that as your focus, where do you think the ball is going to go?
In most cases, you’d kick the ball right at the Goalie, because that is what you’re focused on. If instead of the goalie you aimed for the bottom left corner of the goal but were thinking “don’t hit the post!”, you’d probably hit the post. However, if you focus on the open space between the post and the goalie; if you stare intently at that piece of net that you want to hit; it will be much more likely that that ball will end up in the back of the goal net, and that will feel amazing!
So, with this story in mind, I want you to understand that “What you focus on” is essential in the process of setting and executing better goals. And I know what you’re thinking, “I know how to make and set goals, I write down and plan my goals all the time.” And that’s great. But we’re not talking about long term goal planning here. We’re not talking about what you have written down on paper. Like a player rushing towards the goal, We’re talking about how you mentally and emotionally react in the moment to a situation that’s providing an opportunity to reach your goal. Writing down goals and planning them out is pretty straight forward. Reacting at that moment, In the right way, to a situation that gives you the chance to work towards your goals is different and that’s the skill I’m hoping to teach you here.